We’ve all heard those romantic stories of love at first sight. We might even have read one or two or six novels where the hero or heroine falls tail-over-top in the first sixty seconds.

Perhaps, you’ve written one too, and naturally the hero and heroine live happy-ever after.

I don’t kno358px-Embrace_soulacroixw anyone who fell in love quite that fast, but my hubby asked me to marry him just over two weeks after we met and we’ve been married for over thirty years.  He said he knew the minute he saw me singing in church, he’d marry me.

My cousin’s hubby asked her to marry him on the first date, and they were happily married for over twenty years until she died of cancer.  I have another friend whose sweetie proposed after six weeks.

Not quite love at first sight, I’ll agree, but still something happened pretty darn quick!

So, is love at first sight just a myth? Or is it real?

Scientists at the University of Chicago say it’s253px-Stone_Marcus_A_Stolen_Kiss real, and the study claims the ability to distinguish between love and lust happens automatically and in as little as half a second!

It’s in the eyes and face. Love is triggered through eye contact while lust is generated by ogling other attributes.

We can almost instantly determine our attraction to another person which  sets the pleasure center of our brains to tingling.  In some cases, a couples’ initial attraction is so intense, it leads to long-term relationships.

Surveys have shown that almost 60% of Americans believe in love at first sight and almost half of us, have experienced it.  Those that believe in the phenomenon also believe their love is enough to overcome almost any obstacle.

Sigh. Sounds just like a romance novel doesn’t it?


In A Kiss for Miss Kingsley, a  short story I’ve written  for a 2015 Valentine anthology, my hero and hero fall for each other hard. He proposed after two weeks too.

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Allen took Oliva in his arms, his stance too near to be considered wholly respectable.

He began circling them about the room, shoulders stiff, jaw clenched, and coolly silent.

Why had he asked her to dance when he obviously struggled as much with her close proximity as she did his?

She should never have come.

Such utter foolishness to think something might be salvaged of their love. She’d endure this dance with some semblance of dignity, and afterward, she’d make short work of finding Bradford and Aunt Muriel, and they’d bid their hosts a hasty farewell.

Silence, awkward and heavy, loomed between Olivia and Allen.

Nibbling her lower lip, she strove for something sensible to say, but all coherent thought had vanished when he touched her.

His hand upon her back branded her with possessive heat, and each time his thighs brushed her gown, her legs responded by going weak in the knees, ridiculous things.

She concentrated on counting, one, two, three, one, two, three, in an attempt to keep her mind occupied.

Her thoughts cavorted around, bouncing off each other.

How could she have been so naïve as to think they might put the last three years behind them? He’d gone on with his life it seemed, while she’d remained trapped in the Caribbean caring for her dying father. A tiny sigh escaped her at the injustice. Fate never claimed to be the mistress of fairness.

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Do you believe in love at first sight? I can’t wait to see what you think!


The Romantic Pursuit trivia question for this week is how many years was Olivia in the Caribbean?  



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USA Today Bestselling Author, COLLETTE CAMERON pens Scottish and Regency historicals featuring rogues, rapscallions, rakes, and the intelligent, intrepid damsels who reform them. Blessed with three spectacular children, fantastic fans, and a compulsive, over-active, and witty Muse who won’t stop whispering new romantic romps in her ear, she still lives in Oregon with her husband and five mini-dachshunds, though she dreams of living in Scotland part-time. Admitting to a quirky sense of humor, Collette enjoys inspiring quotes, adores castles and anything cobalt blue, and is a self-confessed Cadbury chocoholic. You'll always find dogs, birds, occasionally naughty humor, and a dash of inspiration in her sweet-to-spicy timeless romances.

24 Responses

  1. ki pha

    Wow! These days I think folks tend to believe it’s a myth, especially in the younger generation. It’s kind of unthinkable or reckless to get engaged or married within weeks these days. I think we younger folks have too much baggage and demand too much (or just too critical and judgmental) to invest in love? That or we’re always too preoccupied to see it –technology. I think back in the days were much more … aware of things so love at first sight is possible, and lasts.

  2. ginaconkle2013

    Hi Collette,
    I think love at first sight happens, but you still have to go through the steps of intimacy and “get-to-know-you” phase. That’s unavoidable. I’ve seen people people who’ve gone the route of a two week courtship and then got married and stayed together. Unfortunately, I’ve seen quickie romances that turned into a race down the aisle and then ended in divorce. It’s not the falling in love part that’s hard or unbelieveable, it’s the maturing for years part.
    Thanks for a great post!

    • Collette Cameron

      I’ve seen those quickie romances too, and I’ve often thought there wasn’t much to those relationships besides physical chemistry. While my hubby asked me to marry him quickly, we were engaged for almost 1 1/2 years before we married.

  3. Barbara Monajem

    Well put, Gina. Yes, it’s real, and yes, it’s hard work!!

  4. dholcomb1

    I think you can feel the attraction right away and think, “he’s the one.” But, I think true love–forever love–develops over time, grows, and strengthens as the couple stays together.

    • Collette Cameron

      I’m interested too. Just because someone believes in love at first sight doesn’t mean they should trot off to get married right away. Every relationship takes lots and lots of hard work to be successful.

  5. Collette Cameron

    Remember ladies, you need to answer the trivia question in the area in the upper right of the blog. Our trivia game coordinator doesn’t check posts for the answer.

  6. jdh2690

    Hubby and I had our first date just after Thanksgiving weekend, he proposed to me just after Christmas…and we were married the following July 6. We’ve been married 35 years now. Pretty darn quick and pretty darn good I’d say. 🙂

  7. ellaquinnauthor

    I have know people who fall in love at first sight, and have written about them. I hesitate to say I did, I was still going through a divorce and resistant to falling in love. I will say, Hubby took my breath away the first time I saw him and he ditched his girlfriend for me. We’ve been together over 30 years.

  8. Joanna M

    If anything experience has taught us that we have to be careful to whom you give your heart. We all know insta attraction is clear but love? That takes time and effort. So I’m going to say I don’t believe in it because it takes so much more than a few seconds to really get to know a person. Or rather, we all can love, but to be IN LOVE, the real connection, is going to take more than a few sweet words and glances across a room 😉