Jane Ashford discovered Georgette Heyer in junior high school and was entranced by the glittering world and witty language of Regency England. That delight was part of what led her to study English literature and travel widely in Britain and Europe. Jane’s historical romances have been published in Sweden, Italy, England, Denmark, France, Russia, Latvia, the Czech Republic, Slovakia, and Spain, as well as the U.S. She has been nominated for a Career Achievement Award by RT Book Reviews.
I read several articles on the net recently that said that married couples who not only endure, but live happily together for years and years, have two things going for them – kindness and generosity. That is, they try to treat each other kindly, and they genuinely enjoy each other’s triumphs and good news. Most importantly, they’re not overly critical or ever contemptuous. Contempt is a real relationship killer.
These ideas really resonated for me because kindness and generosity are important in my new book Married to a Perfect Stranger. The hero and heroine are on the receiving end of some “good-natured” contempt from their families. They’ve been dismissed as the least-likely-to-succeed son and daughter by their families. They have to fight these imposed limits, external and internal, in order to come into their own. And kindness helps their relationship evolve into a place where they can do that. The process isn’t simple; there’s conflict along the way. But through generosity, they discover each other’s strengths and skills – truly see and value the other person. With this strong foundation, their marriage will be one of those that happily lasts.
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Time and distance have changed them both. Quiet and obliging, Mary Fleming and John Bexley married to please their families. Almost immediately, John was sent on a two-year diplomatic mission to China. Now John is back, and everything they thought they knew about each other seems to be wrong… It’s disconcerting, irritating, and somehow very exciting.