What is it about laughter that just brightens up the world? It doesn’t matter how down I am, what I’ve got going on in my life, how stressed out I am, if I can laugh at something everything seems suddenly less dark, more manageable, BETTER.
People make fun of me because when it comes to movies, I’m pretty loyal to comedies. Romantic comedies specifically. I’ll occasionally watch a drama. I enjoy a good period piece. I’ve even been known to watch a scary movie once a decade or so. But 9.8 times out of 10, if I’m sitting down to watch something, that something was specifically chosen because I know it will make me laugh.
When it comes to men, laughter is important to me as well. When I got engaged to my husband, my mom asked me what it was about him that made him THE ONE. He was not my type…not even a little. In fact, he was the exact opposite of my type in just about every way. I usually dated big, burly men. I liked them tall and strong. I’d always dreamed of marrying someone like a college professor 😀 Or a scientist. (I liked their brains big too 😉 ). I hated red hair, and was not a fan of facial hair.
Yet there I was, engaged to a man who was half an inch shorter than me, sporting a full beard, with a head full of bright red hair. He’d spent most of his high school years hunting and fishing instead of going to classes (and I’m sooo not the outdoorsy type). And he was also a divorced father of two who was 10 years older than me.
We met online through my cousin (who was his best friend). We emailed a bit. Then the phone calls started. Nightly phone calls that lasted HOURS. And this was back before the whole free long distance through your cell phone. Our phone bills ranged around $500 a month….each. Because we would talk and laugh and talk some more.
Even now, 13 years later, the man can still make me laugh. Every day. And I do the same for him. My 10 year old son commented the other day, “Mom, how come you are the only one who can make Daddy smile when he’s in a bad mood?” 🙂 I don’t know. But I do know it’s one of the reasons we’ve made it 13 years and are happily looking forward to the next few dozen. Whenever the hubs is grumpy, all I have to do is stare at him. He’ll try to hold the grumpy face but within a few seconds, the smile starts peeking out. Every time 🙂
Laughter, for me, is one of the things that makes my life worth living. I’m one of those irritatingly optimistic people that tries to look at the bright side of everything, and if there IS no bright side, well dang it, I’m going to laugh at the fact that there’s nothing to laugh at.
I think the Beatles got it wrong. Having love is great. Heck, I’m a romance writer. Love is pretty damn important to me. But for me at least, the song should say “All you need is laughter.”
The leading men in my books always have at least a spark of humor to them. I love snarky banter that drives my heroines nuts but secretly amuses them at the same time. It’s fun to match wits with someone, trading barb for barb with each party trying their best to keep their grins under control 🙂 No matter what dark situations my characters face, there will be a note of humor somewhere in the pages.
How do you feel about a funny man? Do you like your hero to make you laugh?
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